Natural Techniques Vs Delay Sprays: Which Is Best?
It’s the million dollar question if you have difficulty with your sexual stamina: what’s the easiest and best way to improve it?
In the 4 years since starting this website, I’ve thought a lot about the different approaches to tackling premature ejaculation. I’ve also read a lot of PE research and personally tried many products along the way.
Since there’s no universally recommended treatment by the medical profession, finding the right treatment isn’t always so straightforward; the reality is that there’s probably a bit of luck involved.
If you visit a doctor, and they can’t identify a treatable medical cause, they might suggest different self-help options as well as pharmaceutical treatment and/or counselling.
And within those self-help options, there are two main approaches:
Exercises and techniques to develop ejaculation control in the long-term.
Immediate solutions like delay sprays, creams, pills and condoms etc.
In this article I’m going to compare those two approaches. So if you’re not keen on visiting a doctor or taking medication, hopefully it will help you work out which you might like to try.
A matter of perspective
My personal opinion is that trying to fix a problem is better than constantly fighting the symptoms.
To use an analogy – if you had bad headaches every day, you wouldn’t just take pain killers every day and forget about it; you’d want to stop them from happening in the first place.
In a similar way, delay products can work well as a short-term solution. But they are unlikely to cure you, so you’ll always be dependent on them unless you learn to control your arousal levels.
I personally feel that developing self-control naturally is the best option. However, desensitizing products can also sometimes play a valuable role in the short-term.
Why desensitizing isn’t a long-term solution
For the sake of simplicity let’s imagine you have a relatively straightforward case of PE. You usually last just a minute or two and are unhappy with your sex life. And it’s affecting your current relationship and confidence sexually.
So do you try a delay spray which could have an immediate positive effect? Or do you take the time to properly tackle what could be a deeper problem than simply physical sensitivity?
There isn’t necessarily an easy answer to that question. It’s understandable that you want a simple solution which allows you to have a normal sex life. That’s what options like delay sprays or pills offer you.
But as much as they can be very effective, there are some important points to consider:
You’ll have to use it every time you have sex – it’s not a cure.
If you have an active sex life, the cost will add up over the years. Some of the best delay sprays are quite expensive – anything from $2 to $5 every time you have sex. Even at just $3 per time, if you have sex on average 3 times per week, that’s around $500 a year.
There’s a chance it will reduce your pleasure, erection strength or ability to maintain an erection. Many guys will be fine and tolerate those issues as a minor inconvenience, but others will find it bothersome.
There’s a slightly passion killing process you have to go through: apply the spray, gel or cream; rub it in; wait 5 to 15 minutes for it to work; and finally wash it off to ensure it doesn’t transfer to your partner.
When desensitizing can be helpful
Despite those potential issues, desensitizing sprays, gels, creams and condoms can be very helpful.If you need help right now because your sex life is suffering, it’s an option that can provide immediate results.
It can provide a big confidence boost if you suddenly go from lasting 1 or 2 minutes to 5 or longer. And that can then help inspire you to continue working on the problem on a more lasting basis.
And if you’re working on developing control naturally, sometimes it’s nice to forget about that, use a spray and just have some great sex without worrying about all the techniques you need to try and get right.
A more lasting solution
In some ways I think this section could be summed up in one simple line: with natural techniques you have the possibility to completely stop premature ejaculation.
Yet many guys are still drawn more towards temporary options. I’m not sure whether it’s because they aren’t aware that natural techniques can work so well, because they’re put off by the idea of having to put some effort in, or because the pharmaceutical companies are better at marketing. Who knows.
I’ll admit that my personal journey of tackling premature ejaculation has taken some time, for various reasons. I’ve tried many different options over the years, but I can happily say that I’m now very confident about my arousal and ejaculation control.
And what gave me that confidence is the self-control I’ve learned naturally, not desensitizing products.
Take control of your own body and mind. For many guys, understanding how their body and mind work during sex is the key to beating.
